A few weeks back, the Executive Producer for Momversation (the sister site to Parents Ask) was teasing me about this protein only diet that I’ve been doing… (Yes, I have been that annoying person in the office responsible for the wafting smell of microwaved turkey bacon and Jarlsberg Lite every morning). So, what was my reason for doing the kind of diet that I typically detest?
“I want to get rid of baby weight.”
He cocked his head. “Um… How old is Baby-Ko again?”
Busted. My kid is starting preschool in the fall. Hello….

Right then and there it occurred to me that I have officially reached my cut off for using the “new mom” excuse. I mean, my constant state of disheveled-ness and unwashed hair can’t entirely be blamed on my precious son… After all, I am juggling a full time job, a divorce, a new relationship, writing a book, an incredibly strong willed toddler, and the shaggiest shag rug known to man. (Literally this thing is a fucking beast). That list is enough to make anyone exhausted– no matter how young or old your kid is. So really, there’s no need to live on the “new mom edge” any longer– those days are done. No need to hide behind that excuse. Now life is just plain chaotic. Let the real games begin…
Amused by my revelation, the EP decided this would make for a great discussion on Momversation. So… Check out this little video…
And tell me….What is the shelf life for using the new mom excuse?


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  1. Monday, March 15th, 2010
    Hi! Great Momversation!
    I replied to the post on my blog!

    I think the shelf life of the "new mom" excuse depends on each mom. I wasn't ready until I had to go back to work and even then it was a chore.

    Now that my daughter is 2 and a half, my husband is being deployed to Afghanistan, I NEED to cut the new mom excuse to make myself feel better in this time of change in my life.

    Just found your blog and I love it!

    PS. Protein diet? That's a new one, what do you do?

    Vanessa Mayhem of A Military Wife's Mayhem
  2. Tuesday, March 16th, 2010
    You...dieting? Girl, please. I think you're fabu just the way you are!

    And, as for that new mom excuse...I still catch myself using it from time to time and my oldest just turned 9. Ha ha ha!
  3. Tuesday, March 16th, 2010
    Thanks for stopping by Vanessa! I'm glad you found me. I've visited your site as well. Great stuff!
  4. Tuesday, March 16th, 2010
    Thanks , Michelle. Between me and you , and anyone else here, I'm not a stickler to the diet. Hello, girl scout cookies.... xo
  5. Saturday, March 20th, 2010
    I've been pregnant & breastfeeding or both for the last 9 years!!! I think I'll keep using the "new mom" excuse forever... LoL
  6. Thursday, March 25th, 2010
    I think the excuse can simply morph!

    So, we start out with "I'm a new mom, it's okay."

    which morphs to

    "My kid is now mobile. With his safety at heart, I cannot neglect him to wash my hair!"

    then eventually becomes

    "Unwashed hair is the new black. I'm a trendsetter, what can I say?"

    The best part, is it's interchangeable for everything, not simply personal hygiene! Not having sex, poor fitness, boob leakage (oh wait, maybe not that one...).

    Great post!
  7. Friday, July 16th, 2010
    Great post, made me laugh! I definitely changed shape after my third child was born, I went from hour glass (with or without extra poundage) to a big round apple shape...I don't think any amount of weight loss will alter this - but she's worth it!
  8. Thursday, September 10th, 2020
    I got used to my new mom excuse and feel realyy comforted with it!))